The Recovery Process

The process is this.  Once we realize we have a problem and need help with it, we need to find something we can trust that will help back to safety.  The concept of faith is encouraged in recovery and Mixed Recovery, Inc. places great value on identifying a source of inner peace as a benchmark for recovery.  We also encourage the concepts of powerlessness and ask that participants commit to the process at all costs, knowing that the outcome will absolutely be better than if we stay in denial and refuse to change.  

Once faith is established, participants are asked to complete an inventory process that helps them develop better understanding of themselves and their conditions.  Following inventory, people enter into the house cleaning stages where we locate and heal our issues of shame, regret, guilt, fear, remorse and resentment.  During the recovery process, we encourage participants to develop new daily routines and practices that reinforce the desire to change for the better.  Provided the first 11 steps of recovery are completed with any level of honesty and transparency, the twelfth step is a natural happening and a percentage of the participants will become so changed that teaching acceptance is new part of their identity and lifestyle.  We call these changed people, Sponsors and they are nonprofessionals who are qualified to show you the process, because they have gone through it themselves.

Below are short descriptions and suggestions for working the steps.

Many people struggle with the concept of powerlessness.  The human ego wants to be in charge of our lives and cannot accept when things do not go our way.  Unfortunately, when we are the most powerful thing in our lives then we live as an island in denial of what is really happening around us.

Mixed Recovery, Inc., is an Omnist company, meaning we recognize and support the healthy aspects of all belief systems.  It is against our religion and company policy to convert people.  Our goal is to take each persons belief systems and offer explanations for recovery that will not conflict with anything that is working for them already.  In step two, we ask that each participant identify the times when they feel most peaceful and ask them to understand, that is our natural and unconditioned state outside of our attachments.  This is meant to establish a benchmark for the healthiest state of being, Acceptance.

There are many different tools and processes for self-awareness work and Mixed Recovery, Inc. hopes to be a primary source of wellness with the tools we are actively creating and promoting.  We offer free and downloadable recovery sheets to the general public as well as online testing with free results.  Our recovery sheets are based manly on the 12 steps and 12 traditions of AA, however we do not limit ourselves to that process and incorporate elements from other 12 step organizations and professions.  If you are ready to begin your inventory work, please select from the link below:

https://mixedrecovery.com/recovery-services

Once we have identified the things that are causing harm in in our lives, we need to to develop a daily process of inner reflection, keeping us focused on our personal goals and using a process that is proven effective.  Step six and seven work together in developing the rituals humans need to overcome their adversities and adapt in a healthy manner to the life they are experiencing.  

Each of the things we work on is at our own pace and by our choice, it is recommended that every participant create morning and evening rituals to help them reconnect with their source of inner guidance and  inspiration for personal growth.

As humans learn, grow and adapt to life, we often feel compelled to take some form of action to correct how we feel about the past.  Recovery is a shame removal system that allows us a simple process for dealing with the consequences of our past harms, to ourselves and others.  It is suggested that we place ourselves at the top of the list, remembering that all of this work is for us and the better future we have been hoping for, one that is free from guilt shame and remorse.

There are two parts to this step, first is the list, second is creating the willingness to make an amends.  Amends is a changed behavior and before we can change a behavior we need to isolate the behavior that needs to go.  What was our part in the situation, how were were wrong and what would we do differently next time.  For this process, we recommend using the Resentments worksheet in combination with the list of people we have harmed.  Causing harm may have been intentional, it may have been because we did not consider their side of the story or maybe we just didn't know any better.

Once a process for inventory has been created, we need to include daily self-awareness checks as part of our new self-care rituals, aka, religion.  Mixed Recovery, Inc., has a very broad and caring definition for religion, we feel they are any chosen self-care rituals.  These new rituals become part of a culture with the people we share support with and therefore, can also be referred to as a cult.  Mixed Recovery, Inc. recognizes the words cult and religion trigger many people and ask that you keep an open mind about these concepts, that they are not globally bad or wrong.  We have found healthy practices in several belief systems and feel certain that if your beliefs are not causing any harm, we support you.

Please allow daily inventory work to become part of your self-care rituals because it has been proven to be the most effective way to deal with the circumstances of life.  Fearless honesty means, remaining accountable to ourselves and others.  It is a more peaceful way of living.

Everyone in recovery experiences this step differently and at various stages of their own recovery.  Many people are still working on serious issues in recovery, yet they can still be perfectly qualified to sponsor others provided they are honest about their conditions and what they are doing to manage them.  It has been illustrated on numerous occasions that no one can understand another person better, than someone who has gone through the same sort of experiences.  It is a question of relating.  Without any point of reference, people are incapable of truly knowing what someone else is going though.

Those of us who have gone through the 12 steps of recovery with a sponsor understand as few others can the nature of our conditions and what is effective in managing the difficulties of our lives.  Speaking to someone who is healed and like us, often means the difference between growth or denial.  It is strange to discover that for many of the people in recovery, the changes are so profound in their characters that they can no longer live with themselves, unless they are doing something daily to support the growth of others.  If you are one of these such people who has completed a recovery process with another qualified person, please consider joining the Mixed Recovery Team.